My Narcissistic Mother

A while back, my husband found an article regarding narcissistic mothers and brought it to my attention. I didn’t quite understand why he did it until I read it. Until that time, I wasn’t even aware that there was such a thing as a “narcissistic mother.” I just thought that my mother was my mother. I never realized there was a terminology for her choice of behavior. It brought to light so many things that made me wonder and become confused about throughout my 30+ years of life. It made sense of a lot of things, yet also stirred up more and different questions than I had before. I wish I could find an expert on this matter in order to work things out.

For the rest of this blog post, I will be referencing this article as quotations. Some quotes were taken out of context/partial quotes because they’re very long in itself. It’s a good read, albeit long. Also note, when I quote my mother with improper grammar or broken English, it is because she speaks with a heavy Chinese accent and that is how I recall it in my head as accurate. Honestly, every point listed in this article can be somehow traced back to my mother, but I’ll address the ones that stick out the most. This post will be long below the “read more” line since a lot happened.


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Corrective chiropractic care

01062015_1I recently found out that the alignment of my neck is a major contributor to my painful migraines and other health issues. I’ve been seeing a chiropractor for about 1.5 years now, but my pain didn’t seem to go away as it did for shiranai. Since he works with computers, it made sense that sitting all day caused him to suffer, however it didn’t make sense for me to still be in similar (if not worse) pain as the year progressed with more appointments than he had. Over the weeks, he continued to get better, but I seemed to still be in the same amount of pain. When my migraines got worse, that is when my chiropractor decided to send me to get x-rays of my neck. My migraines used to dissipate after I took a nap or went to bed, but lately have become worse. They were incredibly nauseating as well as painful.

Here are a couple pics of my neck x-rays that shiranai took from our chiropractor’s computer using his phone cam (we don’t have access to the actual x-rays, sorry!):

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